Sip & Chew

on a random Sunday noon,

caught up with an old old buddy...

went to this cafe - Sip & Chew which is same row as Woody...

it is small, and a bit empty for me...

I'm always a sofa-person...

thus, this interior wouldn't give me a cozy feel... 

the menu bit simple and not much choices for me...

I did not try the foods, can't comment much...

but the coffee some how disappoint me... 

hmmm....

apparently, it's not a ' professional coffee machine brew '...

can tell from the froth itself...

I had Cappuccino (above - Rm 8) and fren had Latte (below - Rm 8)...

I usually don't put sugar when having coffee...

I wonder why the coffee is sweetened when served...

I'm not very happy with it...   :(

Immediately I suspect it's the instant pack or dunno what... so hmmm...

there are these props on each table, for photo taking...

efforts **     :)

it's a very short post since I did not dine in...

19 Things To Stop Doing In Your Life

19 Things To Stop Doing In Your 20s Life

1. Stop placing all the blame on other people for how they interact with you. To an extent, people treat you the way you want to be treated. A lot of social behavior is cause and effect. Take responsibility for (accept) the fact that you are the only constant variable in your equation.

2. Stop being lazy by being constantly “busy.” It’s easy to be busy. It justifies never having enough time to clean, cook for yourself, go out with friends, meet new people. Realize that every time you give in to your ‘busyness,’ it’s you who’s making the decision, not the demands of your job.

3. Stop seeking out distractions. You will always be able to find them.

4. Stop trying to get away with work that’s “good enough.” People notice when “good enough” is how you approach your job. Usually these people will be the same who have the power to promote you, offer you a health insurance plan, and give you more money. They will take your approach into consideration when thinking about you for a raise.

5. Stop allowing yourself to be so comfortable all the time. Coming up with a list of reasons to procrastinate risky, innovative decisions offers more short-term gratification than not procrastinating. But when you stop procrastinating to make a drastic change, your list of reasons to procrastinate becomes a list of ideas about how to better navigate the risk you’re taking.

6. Stop identifying yourself as a cliche and start treating yourself as an individual. Constantly checking your life against a prewritten narrative or story of how things “should” be is a bought-into way of life. It’s sort of like renting your identity. It isn’t you. You are more nuanced than the narrative you try to fit yourself into, more complex than the story that “should” be happening.

7. Stop expecting people to be better than they were in high school — learn how to deal with it instead. Just because you’re out of high school doesn’t mean you’re out of high school. There will always be people in your life who want what you have, are threatened by who you are, and will ridicule you for doing something that threatens how they see their position in the world.

8. Stop being stingy. If you really care about something, spend your money on it. There is often a notion that you are saving for something. Either clarify what that thing is or start spending your money on things that are important to you. Spend money on road trips. Spend money on healthy food. Spend money on opportunities. Spend money on things you’ll keep.

9. Stop treating errands as burdens. Instead, use them as time to focus on doing one thing, and doing it right. Errands and chores are essentially rote tasks that allow you time to think. They function to get you away from your phone, the internet, and other distractions. Focus and attention span are difficult things to maintain when you’re focused and attentive on X amount of things at any given moment.

10. Stop blaming yourself for being human. You’re fine. Having a little anxiety is fine. Being scared is fine. Your secrets are fine. You’re well-meaning. You’re intelligent. You’re blowing it out of proportion. You’re fine.

11. Stop ignoring the fact that other people have unique perspectives and positions. Start approaching people more thoughtfully. People will appreciate you for deliberately trying to conceive their own perspective and position in the world. It not only creates a basis for empathy and respect, it also primes people to be more open and generous with you.

12. Stop seeking approval so hard. Approach people with the belief that you’re a good person. It’s normal to want the people around you to like you. But it becomes a self-imposed burden when almost all your behavior toward certain people is designed to constantly reassure you of their approval.

13. Stop considering the same things you’ve always done as the only options there are. It’s unlikely that one of the things you’ll regret when you’re older is not having consumed enough beer in your 20s, or not having bought enough $5 lattes, or not having gone out to brunch enough times, or not having spent enough time on the internet. Fear of missing out is a real, toxic thing. You’ve figured out drinking and going out. You’ve experimented enough. You’ve gotten your fill of internet memes. Figure something else out.

14. Stop rejecting the potential to feel pain. Suffering is a universal constant for sentient beings. It is not unnatural to suffer. Being in a constant state of suffering is bad. But it is often hard to appreciate happiness when there’s nothing to compare it to. Rejecting the potential to suffer is unsustainable and unrealistic.

15. Stop approaching adverse situations with anger and frustration. You will always deal with people who want things that seem counter to your interests. There will always be people who threaten to prevent you from getting what you want by trying to get what they want. This is naturally frustrating. Realize that the person you’re dealing with is in the same position as you — by seeking out your own interests, you threaten to thwart theirs. It isn’t personal — you’re both just focused on getting different things that happen to seem mutually exclusive. Approach situations like these with reason. Be calm. Don’t start off mad, it’ll only make things more tense.

16. Stop meeting anger with anger. People will make you mad. Your reaction to this might be to try and make them mad. This is something of a first-order reaction. That is, it isn’t very thoughtful — it may be the first thing you’re inclined to do. Try to suppress this reaction. Be thoughtful. Imagine your response said aloud before you say it. If you don’t have to respond immediately, don’t.

17. Stop agreeing to do things that you know you’ll never actually do. It doesn’t help anyone. To a certain extent, it’s a social norm to be granted a ‘free pass’ when you don’t do something for someone that you said you were going to do. People notice when you don’t follow through, though, especially if it’s above 50% of the time.

18. Stop ‘buying’ things you know you’ll throw away. Invest in friendships that aren’t parasitic. Spend your time on things that aren’t distractions. Put your stock in fleeting opportunity. Focus on the important.

19. Stop being afraid. 

- 2O12 -

- 2O12 - 

since mid-year, I keep telling people around me that, this year seems bit ‘ too-happening’ for me...

too much up-and-down...

happee and sad things happened one followed by one NON-STOP...

I barely have little free time, sit myself down with normal pace of breathing and review a bit...

a lot of changes... too much !

frens joining, frens leaving...

never been so high frequency for the previous 26 years...

to be honest, I feel extremely tired with a lot of thingies...

yet 21122012 didn't happen ! damn !

life still carries on...

and more decisions waiting me ahead !

this gonna be a supa long post...

I gonna blog down every single highlights happened in this year...

for a little diary to myself...

to jot down the details of 2012...

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I started my very first day of 2012 in Singapore...

having glass of Moet by the lake with besties...

believe it would be a great start...

Henz tRip mini getaway to Hadyai for missie Jen~  :)

tho short, but we had great fun times..

once a year M60 Reunion Gathering before CNY...

finally, the big day has come...

first Wedding dinner to attend in 2012... 

bz bz being the jimuiz ~
Congrats 1st Katiakz member gets married~  :)

Gong Hei Fatt Choy~

my very first 'job' for an Event Company... 

hand stitched props for photo shooting~   :)

February 

kicked start with lovely Yoong's wedding...

another round of ji muiz...

so happee for her new status, but so sad, as she moved to Tw for good... *sniff..

Jen's birthday on the sweet sweet 214

Xandra's bday, another round of pri-school gatherings...

Feb ends with Katiakz long awaited Bali bali tRip~ woo hoo

March

2nd day of 3rd month, a very sad new of my Kindy-classmate passed away...

I just attended his ROM at Sg in Nov' 2011,

never thought it had been a very last gathering for us...

I feel so glad I did make it at last, which was a very last minute decision...

missed him...

before my emotion backed to ' normal stage '

here came my Idol-of-life's concert...

I missed all his concerts since the age of 14, after 13 yrs, finally I made it...

but with mixed feeling... 

hmmm... 

In conjuction with Lee Hom Concert,

it was also a second Katiakz Getaway of the year..

spent a short weekend in KL despite all the hassles..

mid month, another round of bestie's wedding...

finally, Steffie and Khuang...

another long-waited couples... so happy for them... woo hoo~ 

week after, colleague's wedding...

after so many years....

my classmate, who sat next to me during Standard 5, backed from Ireland and organized this reunion outing...

so awkward, to meet up after so long.. 

but it was fun... hahaha

end my 3rd month with another Hadyai weekend getaway trip...

and birthday meet up for this busy guy, who I met less than 4 times in a year ! 

by blogging purely the highlights for the 1st 3 months, 

I re-cap the busy schedule and feel 'chuan' for myself...

 April

ta da~ 

Louise's baby sis, finally turned 21...

invited all the je jez for her mini but glamour birthday partay... 

we felt so old... wtf

once a year, cheng beng session with my big and noisy familie...

this round, something different,

as we pray for our beloved grandma too, my grandpa no longer alone...

I got second job from D Playground Events ! 

woo hoo...  :)

big sick...

warmed concern from an old-met-backed-frens...

so touched !

a 'reward' dinner after 7 years...
too full but happee...   :)

19th Apr...

the saddest day of 2012...

the leaving of her...

a blog dedicated for Priscilla... 

May

helping on shooting and blogging for OT during Loke Promo Tour..

suRprise birthday celebration for Kiwie...

birthday dinner for je and jefu~

end 5th month with family Bangkok trips...

with Jen and siblings...

after 17 years...

a lot of 'it just so happened' incidents during the month of May...
unexplained...
fated and meant to be perhaps ?

 June

begins with a big decision that could probably changed my life...
good or bad, no one knows, just live with it...

***
first trial of Acupuncture in my life...

no pain no fears at all...

since then, I've been recommending alot of people around me go try...

a very good healing treatment for many sickness...

bad Haze day in Penang...

3rd week of June, fren's bday on every day...

2 besties' babies born on same week too...

short family getaway to KL...

coincidentally, I managed to make myself attend Jayesslee Concert after being their little fans for 4 years...  :)

wedding dinner of Ella, ex-colleague backed from Melbourne~

week after,

quite a surprise wedding...

hehe... Sukhpal Singh is getting married !

total different experiences of attending a Singh's wedding...

dancing all night long, non-stop shows performances... 

we " forced " to perform Indian dance for the newly-wed too...

my darling's lovely daughter... :)

 July

the once a year meet up with Pier ~

Penang Hill day trip after years...

the day means alot...

only we known...  :)

after years...  :)

contributed alot to CSR events this year...

my lovely team~  :)

great experience of Charity Night Ride in Georgetown...

felt so proud to have police escort all the way... hehe

Birthday Celebration for Yc...

bbq at her house...

happy and fun night...  :)

surprise blow cake session with Uncle, mung's daddy...

this year is really a Heritage year...

the Fantastic wall drawings made Penang an even better island and getting 'so famous' 

heritage trail with family and frens on a random weekend... 

Happee buRfday to beloved daddy... 

Aug

second bouquet to office...

another suRprise...  :)

an Awesome Trilogy entered my life and ' changed ' alot of things...

good read ! 

about Grey 

bday partay at my house, once a year daddy's laksa time... hehe

Happee 5th Burfday kiddo !

 Sept

4th Sept, Katiakz Anni...

we exchanged our I Love You rings on this day...

officially announced as ' Partners-for-each-other-in-life ' no matter happy or sad, rich or poor...

Happee buRfday to Mr Wayne...

happee 1st buRfday to handsome Nathan Boi !

the kid, I known since he was at the age of 7, holding his hand to cross the big road...

now a big macho guy, 

exploring his studies in UK... 

time flies... and I'm getting old, really... sigh

2nd week of Sept,

I chopped my hair short...

hope for a 'good' start...

End of Sept, small getaway to Singapore with Yc...

backed on time for Mung's bday~

and another high school mate's wedding~

finally !!!

we got our keys...

Boulevard, I like...  :)

happee m00ncake festival...

sadly, I didn't have a cheer one this year...   :'(

 October

last 3 months of 2012...

Parties months started....

non-stop bday parties, partying, gathering, outings... 

busy busy busy but happee~  woo hoo~

I felt proud of myself...

initial plan was to morning jog at Botanical garden...

changed to Strawberry Hill, fren suggested hike to 84, in the end, we hiked to PENANG HILL without realized !

wtf...

we total ignored the 84 pit stop throughout the way !!!

consequences :  I can't feel my legs for one-whole-week !

happeebuRfday to prettie Louise~  :)

teng teng...

another big applause of the year... 

self-made Black Swan Costume for Halloween Parties ~

click here for more... 

very last day of Oct,

happEebuRfday to mr Jimmy Leow !

what a busy day for me !

Ta da~

nOvember is always mah fav mOnth...

due to mah belOved 117...

as age catching up...

I no longer anticipate the coming of the day...

some simple dine out with frens and family are great enough...

I'm lucky to have bunch of awesome buddies and lovely familie...

to plan dinner outing for me...

throughout the week~

birthday closure with a little short get away to Genting Highlands...

thanks Resort World for a night of free stay at First World Hotel as a birthday tReat !

it's been years since mah last visit !

a week right after mah 117, it's Evatar's bday...

again.. another round of partay-non-stop...

 

17th - 22nd Nov' 2012

a trip which has been awaited for 9 months...

finally I stepped in Japan ! 

some where I dreamt to go since young !

alot more about Tokyo to blog in later days... 

a day after my trip, another wedding dinner to attend...

my beloved Junior...

last day of Nov, another round of bday celebration...

newbies to the gang ! mr bRian ~

1st week of December...

again and Last, birthday week for Eleen~

my own promise to myself...

we did at least step out the first move for CustoMaidz after 3 yrs of planning...

  

our 1st job for Agilent Finance Team Building

House warming / X'mas partay at Lou's started 2nd week of Dec... 

little charity event among frens...  :)

2nd X'mas partay at Yoong's...

she brings baby backed from Taiwan~  yeah~~~

another Pri-school gathering before crossed year...

the eve~

annuanly X'mas partay at Linna's with familie and frens...

theme for this year : Black and Red

another and very last wedding dinner in 2012

childhood - familie frens... 

very LAST sunday of 2012,

we attended baby Sidney's fullmoon partie at Straits Quay...

the theme is Aloha, Hawaii~

we had a great afternoon, relaxing by the quay...  :)

such a long post, taken me so much time to blog...

da good side, taking this opportunity to review back what made me so busy and tied up throughout the year...

so many celebration, yet quite a number of sad things happened around..

those mentioned above are highlights,

there are things that only meant for keeping in hearts, memories to myself... 

I did not have much achievement, shameful to mention...

experienced all kind of mixed feeling throughout the 12 mths...

happening, happiest to the max, sweet and bitter, emo, withdrawn, upset, sad to the max too...

everything just hit the climax once it happened...

I shall treat it as a learning path, turning point in my life and live to the fullest... 

the leaving of Pris in April,

somehow seems to be a 'wake-up-call' to my life...

the incident slightly changed a lot of point of view in my life...

some decisions made and changed...

right or wrong, good or bad, I have no idea...

I hope 2O13 would be a better year...

and I still learning to be a happier and better person...

"Good bye 2012" is such a heavy phrase for me...

guess too much memories in these 365 days...

I got so sentimental when the clock hits 12...

Hello 2O13...

please brings me more lucks...

a lot more changes would be made...

stay tune... 

cheers~  xoxo